M&G: 10 Things to Know Before Your 1st Meet and Greet
Your first M&G is coming up soon and you want to make sure you’re prepared for it? No need to worry! We’ve talked to many experienced sugar babies who helped us come up with the 10 things you should know before your first meet and greet with a sugar daddy!
We’ll start with the definition of M&G and what to expect in general, then tell you the most important things about how to prepare for everything related to it, from your first messages to allowance and payment.
M&G definition
M&G, short for meet and greet, refers to the first time you meet a potential sugar daddy (POT) in person. For security reasons, it is highly recommended to do it in public.
The goal of an M&G is simple: give both of you a chance to see if there’s real chemistry. That’s why it should be short, a coffee or a quick drink after work works well. If there’s no connection, you can both go your separate ways easily. If there is, it’s just as easy to extend the date on the spot.
For this same reason, the M&G should stay platonic. This first meeting is the right moment to talk openly about expectations and the shape you’d like the arrangement to take, so you both leave on the same page. Being upfront that it’s platonic means no one walks away disappointed, and it leaves more to look forward to if things progress from there.
Your first meet and greet with a sugar daddy: 10 things to know
Your first M&G is coming up and you want to walk in prepared. We talked to experienced sugar babies in our community to put together the ten things worth knowing before you go, from your very first messages to how allowance and payment usually get discussed.
1. Research your POT before you meet.
The goal of sugar dating is finding a compatible sugar daddy for a relationship that genuinely works for both of you, so it’s worth taking the time to check whether he is who he says he is. Reverse search his profile pictures and phone number, and don’t underestimate how much you can learn from just a first name and job title. We’ve covered exactly how to do this kind of research in a two-part guide on finding out more about a POT with minimal information.
2. Don’t expect to be paid for the M&G.
Aligned expectations matter from the very first message, and one thing to know upfront is that sugar daddies generally don’t pay for the meet and greet itself. This norm exists because too many “sugar babies” have scammed sugar daddies into paying in advance to “prove they were real,” then never showed up. We don’t support this practice; it’s dishonest, and it gives sugar dating a bad reputation for everyone.
3. Get clear on your own expectations first.
Take time to think through what you actually want. Would you date a married man? Do you want one sugar daddy or more than one? Under what conditions would you consider exclusivity? How often do you want to meet? How would you like to be compensated? Are you open to romance, mentorship, or travel as part of the arrangement? Clear expectations make it much easier to filter for compatibility from the start, and you should never settle for less than you know you deserve.
4. Talk about the allowance before the date.
Once your expectations are clear, discuss them, including the financial side, before the M&G itself. Otherwise you risk spending hours preparing for a date with someone who assumes covering dinner is compensation enough.
5. Don’t expect an allowance from day one.
Sugar dating has been around long enough that most experienced sugar daddies already know how these arrangements typically unfold. As mentioned, they usually won’t pay for the M&G itself, especially not in advance, since many have been burned by scammers before.
That said, a thoughtful POT might bring a small gift or offer to cover your travel expenses, which gives you an early read on his generosity. It’s fine to ask if he’ll cover your taxi home, but never accept a ride home from him directly; only people you trust should know where you live.
If you’ve followed the tips above, you’ll already know your target pay-per-meet (PPM) and monthly allowance, and you’ll have discussed it with your POT. Bring up the financial details again before the date ends. Most sugar daddies start with PPM and shift to a monthly or bi-weekly allowance once trust is established, which usually takes a couple of months.
6. Protect your identity.
You certainly don’t want potential sugar daddies to know your real name or to find you on social media. That could lead to a large array of problems, from unwanted messages on social media to blackmail.
Luckily, we published a whole article on all measures you can take to protect your identity here. In short, you should use a fake name, have a bunch of pics only for sugar dating (because it’s pretty easy to trace them back to your social media accounts, or worse, LinkedIn, as explained above), and, as we’ll explain below in more detail, get a burner number.
7. Get a burner number.
The reason why you should seriously look into getting a burner number is that your phone number is directly linked to your full name and can’t be unlinked. As a result, giving it to anyone automatically also gives away your real identity. This person could then find out where you live, work, go to university and so on, which you probably wouldn’t want.
There are several ways you could get a burner number. Here’s an article about the best ways to get one in the US. When asked, most sugar babies from our community suggested Google Voice and Burner.
8. Don’t send explicit messages or photos
Before the M&G, unless you had a videocall with your potential sugar daddy, you don’t know whom you’re talking to. And, if you ask me, not even a video chat is enough. For what it’s worth, you could be talking to a scammer!
For this reason, we highly recommend not sexting or sending nudes to anyone you haven’t met in real life yet. Unfortunately, there are way too many accounts from sugar babies who have been blackmailed or ghosted after exchanging this kind of messages.
9. Don’t share any banking information
Cash is your best friend! It’s untraceable and therefore safe for both parties. For this reason, most sugar babies recommend only receiving money in the form of cash at the beginning.
There are simply too many scammers out there to risk it. No matter how much a potential sugar daddy insists on sending you money via online banking, don’t give away your bank info! Especially if you’ve only talked to him online!
Besides, there are many ways to be wired money without giving away any banking information. Cash App is the most recommended one among the sugar babies from our community.
10. Don’t make too many assumptions
Yes, there are many accounts on meet and greets that went wrong and endless lists of red flags. With time, you too will make experiences that will make you more cautious. However, you shouldn’t forget that you are talking to real people, and people are unique.
That means that not just because a potential sugar daddy is relatively young and new to sugar dating that he is a scammer. Give people a chance. Have a short video call with him — which is one of MySugarDaddy’s built-in features — and, if you are happy with what you see and would like to know him better, arrange a meeting in person.
After all, we all know we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. So let the universe surprise you!
Follow these ten tips, treat your M&G like any other first date, and you’ll be well prepared to find a sugar daddy worth keeping.
Good luck and have fun!
