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How on Earth “There is No Such Thing as Self-Sabotage”?!

Have you been fighting self-sabotage? I have. After many years of trying to strengthen my willpower, eradicate laziness from my life and finally adopt some good habits, I stumbled upon a completely new idea: there is no such thing as self-sabotage. How can this be true?!

But wait. Let’s start from the beginning:

What is self-sabotage?

Self-sabotage refers to behaviors that go directly against your goals. Instances of it are having a cigarette after deciding to quit smoking, saying something stupid at your job interview that immediately ruins your chances, spending a lot of time on your phone when you were supposed to be studying and so on.

Here are some other ways people typically self-sabotage:

How can self-sabotage not be a thing?!

We are all guilty of self-sabotage. It’s a sure thing that we all acted against our personal interests and long-term goals at some point. So how can it not exist?

What made me question it was the video below as well as some articles from therapists of different modalities who claim that self-sabotage is actually a defense mechanism.

According to them, we don’t practice it out of sheer laziness. We are trying to protect ourselves from pain. Here are some examples:

And the list goes on…

woman self-sabotage instead of studying

So how do you benefit from not pursuing your goals or keeping your promises? What are the possible downsides to them? Are these downsides even true?